My Commitment to Slow Fashion.

by Belinda


17 Pairs of Blue Jeans and my White Jeans

Every end of the year, it is my practice to take stock of the past year and to see where I can improve myself in different areas of my life, for the coming year. In 2019, I started off very well committing to buying only one item each of the following per month: one item of clothing, one accessory, one pair of shoes and an item of makeup. For me, this didn’t include any replacement items eg. if a foundation finished, I gave myself allowance to replace it.

All my shirts sans tee shirts. This can definitely be more edited.

It all fell apart after “No Buy September”. It was as if, because I didn’t buy in September, I had this desire to somehow ‘catch up’. I felt like a miserable failure. For the rest of the year, although I have definitely bought so much less, my rule went out of the window. I actually didn’t buy any more new shoes after September and felt I needed to just reign myself in. The one thing I’m extremely proud of is I didn’t buy even one pair of blue jeans for 2019!

Some of my Shoe Collection!

So, going into 2020 where fashion is concerned, Matilda and I are changing everything up. The entire focus of our business will be “Slow Fashion.” For Matilda, not much will change. She’s adopted this approach years ago. It’s how she lives her life. I however, have made a conscious commitment to incorporating a slower approach to fashion for this coming year. I admit I’m a shopaholic but 2019 and my rules for shopping throughout it, have changed me on the inside. I have almost completely stopped all impulse buying but here are a few ways I’m going to further alter my shopping habits this year…

The rest of my summer shoes. I know this is too much!

1. If I do online shopping, I will add things to my basket and leave them there for a minimum of 30 days before purchasing. I feel this will give me the opportunity to look for an alternative that is either more sustainable although new, or a pre-loved option.

The rest of my trousers, all arranged in colour combo.

2. I will not visit malls unless for a specific purpose, and I won’t meet up at a mall with a friend for a coffee. There are other places to meet that will provide less temptation.

3. I have decided not to impose rules on myself regarding numbers of items for shopping, but where I am going to be strict is to challenge myself as much as possible, to buy pre-loved. If I cannot find the item pre-loved, I am restricting myself to sustainable, ethical and local brands.

My edited tee shirt pile. Very proud of this.

4. I’m going to be transparent. Once a month, I will write a blog post, including each and every fashion item I’ve purchased that month. I think besides keeping me accountable, it will also help me to visibly see what I’m adding to my closet. Doing this sometimes gives one a bit of a shock!

My dresses and skirts.

So with these few guidelines in place, I’m trusting that 2020 will be a year of a more edited closet for me. Hopefully, my closet will look less full than it currently does. I will be going through the closet, as I usually do each season, and remove items I don’t tend to wear. Here’s to a far more conscious fashion year than the one I’ve just done. We can all do better, one choice at a time.

Belinda xo

Say Yes!

by Matilda

Procrastination has a very nasty sibling called self-sabotage. You think about something for ages, weighing the pros and cons. You contemplate all the possible outcomes, you Google it extensively and then you think about it some more. At last you have thought it through and through and then – you do nothing. You do nothing, not because it is a bad idea. No. You do nothing, because you just don’t.

Oh, don’t get me wrong. I have excuses. Not the same thing as reasons. I don’t have money. I don’t have time. I don’t know how. I don’t think people will like my idea. I am not a go-getter. This won’t really make my life better. These pitiful thoughts are usually how I rationalise not doing something. You probably justify your inability to take action in your own authentic way.

The horrible outcome of this lifestyle, is that you are paralysed. For a moment you have a plan and you are excited to do this thing. You’ve got this. You also know that this is not true and you cannot do this. You drop the ball. When you get into bed, you haven’t done a thing and you decide to postpone whatever it is you wanted to do.

We fear to fail. We are taught that failure is bad. We feel embarrassed, even ashamed when we fail. So it’s better to not try than to fail. And if we are disappointed in ourselves for not taking action, we can take comfort in our fantastic excuses.

I am no expert in psychology, but I am a professional procrastinator and I sure know a thing or two about self-sabotage. My advice sounds easy, but it is difficult too. Firstly you have to recognise your inaction as self-sabotage. This is not a once-off thing. It is not that you are in a bad place in your life and you struggle to move on. No, this is years and years of wanting a different life, but not doing anything to change yourself or your life. Secondly you have to be brave. You have to say yes to something. There are opportunities all around us. Say yes to one and take action.

When Belinda asked me to join “My Style Journey,” I thought about it for some time. I almost talked myself out of it once or twice, or twenty times. All my excuses sounded hollow and I said yes. This one thing has changed my life dramatically. I don’t want to bore you with how boring my life was, but it was really boring. Now, I interact with people from all over the world, I learn new things every single day, and I feel ready for more.

It definitely helps to be held accountable. Belinda relies on me to pull my weight and do the tasks that we both agreed upon, and I will not let her down. I said yes. That makes me responsible for getting things done. I’ve made plenty of mistakes and the sky did not fall. Not even once.

Getting off my butt and doing something, gave me confidence to try other things. I feel so much more alive. So go ahead, say yes.

Matilda xo